Jonah

Over the past week, over 5 MILLION people took a trip to youtube to watch the now viral “What’s goin on” video by Jonah Mowry.

If you haven’t seen the video, check it out here:

In response to this video (and to the issue of bullying at large), I shot my own response and placed it on youtube as well. While this video is largely to Jonah and the bravery he showed, it is more importantly directed to someone else….

To you.

We all have friends like Jonah. At one time or another, we have felt just like Jonah.

My challenge to you in this short post? Simple—choose to love.

I’m a Horrible Speaker

I, Scott Backovich, am the worst speaker I know.

Sadly, the above statement is 100% accurate (and has caused me to have quite the busy fall).

I have been in-and-out of doctors’ offices, ear/nose/throat specialists’ exam rooms, and hospitals for the past year and a half trying to diagnose a recurring health problem that I have been going through.

Before you get worried and have your grandmother send me cookies (which would be greatly appreciated), let me explain…

Every 6 weeks since June of 2010, my entire vocal system (including any feeling I might have in my throat) would essentially shut down, calling for me to go on a regimen of antibiotics to restore my health in time for my next speech or conference appearance.

Sometimes I would be lucky—the antibiotics would work, I would feel rejuvenated on stage, and everything would go well. Other times though, I wasn’t so lucky. I would struggle to speak for more than an hour, fight to maintain pitch and tone, and do everything I could to maintain a decent volume.

A few weeks ago though, (and after having an HD camera shoved down my throat) I finally received the answer as to what has been going on.

When speaking, your body uses a group of muscles in harmony to produce speech. Two of these muscles are primary, doing the vast majority of the work and supplying to pure power required to make sound. Two of the other muscles, while far less important, function to do smaller things such as control pitch and tone, fine tuning the power that the initial three muscles create. While still important, these last two muscles should not be overworked.

But unfortunately, my vocal system did not get the memo.

As the camera showed, my body does the exact opposite of what it is supposed to. Instead of doing the majority of the work, my primary muscles don’t do much of anything. Instead of simply fine tuning the sound produced, my two helper muscles do all of the work, causing the m to get tired, sick, and then to shut down.

Like I said, I’m a horrible speaker.

And as if it weren’t ironic enough, I will soon have to undergo speech therapy, re-teaching my muscles step-by-step to do one of my body’s most basic functions—to talk.

My point in telling you that story is not to make you feel bad for me, my situation, or to laugh at the irony of everything (though I personally find it hilarious). On the contrary, I decided to write today to tell you something different—

Sometimes, the things in life that are the most fulfilling are the exact things that constantly present you with daunting challenges.

Homecoming weeks at schools are here, midterms are clearly present, and for a lot of you, the stress of the school year is at an all-time high. And while you might be able to lighten the load by pulling near all-nighters, putting in hours upon hours of extra prep work after school, or neglecting everything else to stay focused, the sad fact is that your body will eventually run out of energy.

Instead of virtually killing yourself by sacrificing your body and doing the same things you’ve always done, my challenge to you is the same that I currently face:

Take the time to relearn something you do constantly in a new way.

Maybe that means restructuring how you spend your time during the day, perhaps it means getting better at designating tasks, or it might even be simply learning to let go at one time or another to see things pan-out for themselves.

Nothing truly great in life comes without the work to make it something great, and more importantly, nobody ever did something flawlessly without first doing it horribly hundreds of times.

Even if it is the most routine task you do on a daily basis, relearning to do things in different, more efficient ways can make our lives (and the lives of those around us), much more fulfilling.

I will be doing my best to relearn how to speak. What will you relearn to do?

Online Absence

ATTENTION TEENS OF CYBERSPACE (aka those on my Facebook page) AND ADVISORS OF THE WORLD (again, those on my Facebook page and twitter account…. Don’t judge me.)

I have a confession to make…

I’ve been a little lazy lately.

No. That’s an understatement. Let’s try again. Ahem…

I’ve been slacking off on writing these during the last few months.

Wait, ok. That’s still not cutting it. One last time…

I have been totally failing you in terms of online content.

Much better.

As of late, I’ve been holding down the fort by supplying you with haiku-like status updates, quote-driven status posts, and to top it all off, random statuses to make you giggle (which, by the way, if you’re keeping tabs, are all the same thing). Sadly, I’ve been a lame “supplier of wisdom” who fits everything in 140 characters or less (which isn’t fair to you or anyone else).

Recently, it took an amazing friend and fellow speaker (hi Patrick) to metaphorically beat me over the head with a 2X4 to realize my downfall and get back on track.

And the best part is…I’m loving it (queue McDonalds jingle…..now).

Helping you from the stage is great, but getting the opportunity to slam down thoughts in writing that will (hopefully) instill some sort of excitement or inspiration is equally important.

And at the same time, writing is something I truly enjoy doing. Whether it is answering your questions during the Formspring run we did last year (which, for the hundred or-so of you who were a part of it…thank you) to writing down content that your educators can pass on to you in the classroom, my true joy from “working” (if you can even call it that) is helping you with life as it hits.

But instead of simply proclaiming that I’m back, I have something I want to say directly to you this week.

Look hard at the computer….Ready? Ok…

I want you to pick something back up this week you’ve recently dropped.

I’m talking about something you love doing. That hobby you started doing less of recently. That activity you don’t seem to have time for.

Yep. I want you to add another thing to your plate.

Btw–don’t you dare click off of this page right now…You have not received any notifications in the last 2 minutes. If you click the “back”, I will sick my hamster on you.

I completely understand the fall crunch you’re most likely experiencing. School has started, fall sports are beginning once again, you’re overloaded with homework, and you have that one teacher who refuses to let you do anything with your life but write Cornell Notes.

What am I getting at then? Simple—In order to have the energy, motivation, and will to do the things you have to do, you need to spend more time doing the things that you want to do.

I’m not saying that you need to cut the amount of sleep you get at night or anything like that, but taking just 10 minutes away from Facebook and diving into that book, calling up that old friend, or learning to play that new song might just be the thing you need to get through the early part of the school year.

And while you’re at it, share the joy you experience with others. It wasn’t until a friend beat me over the head with this that I was able to experience it for myself.  If nothing else, spend some time doing these things with friends so that they can enjoy life a little more as well.

In doing so, I promise that your mind, your body your friend, and my hamster will thank you.